I recently got some very good advise from a friend on dealing with my soon to be 15 year olds attitude.
She told me, as a Mom to ask her, "Is there anything I am doing that is causing a problem between us?" Then to ask her, "Are there any secrets that you need to share with me?"
This gave my daughter an opportunity to unload whatever was bothering her and to clear any things out of her mind she may have needed to apologize for.
I pray you have a relationship with your mom that these may work. I know that it comes from a Moms point of view on my side, but it is something to think about.
Really hope that helps.
So what's your problem? What caused this attitude? The only person you are hurting is YOU. You will never get anywhere like that and no one likes a person with a bad attitude. What about your parents? Are you giving them attitude as well? Shame on you. Perhaps they need to take you to counseling--or behind the woodshed for a good old fashioned spanking to straighten you up.
Has there been any stress in your life lately?
If your are stressed than you won't want to work, b/c you are currently working through some problems.
I myself have had the same problem as yourself multiple tymes.
I just give myself sum tyme by MYSELF to get back to myself.
Then wen I feel bettah...usually 1 hour or 2 later afta treat'in myself to sum spa treatment or relaxing massages then I feel loads bettah.
Maybe you just need to spend tyme pampering yourself.
If that doesn't wrk than maybe your should try a day out wit ur friends/boyfriend, or family members.
Good luck feeling bettah.
Maybe you have ADD Attention Defecit Disorder
If affects your mood and will to learn. I'd go get checked out if the problem continues.
Sarah T. Betts
Guess what? You are a teenager! This is no news to you, but as a teenager you do go through periods like this in your life. Where you just feel like it is not worth your while to do anything. You are normal!! And guess what? this is not the last time it will happen, you will go through this all through your life. Learning how to deal with it is something else. First, there are somethings in this life we must do. It does not matter whether we want to do them, they are generally for our own good. We have to look forward into our future. You look forward, and think about the things that you really want to do in your life, the things you want to accomplish, your dreams. At the very root of them all, is education. Getting a good education can mean the difference between living your dreams or just dreaming your dreams. Look forward into your future. Then do what you must do!
Sugar, I have been in the same situation as you. I had an attitude about schoolwork and did only what I had to to get by and pass school. Never made any effort and had so so grades.
Flash forward to getting into a good college and finding a good job down the road. Not so easy when you've been slacking and not ever really trying. Colleges/employers want to see someone who is motivated and willing to WORK. I worked for a very low salary at a job that I really didn't enjoy for a long time. When you're a teenager, it's hard to think ahead to what your life will be like years down the road according to the decisions you are making NOW.
I would sit down with your parents or the people who care for you, and calmly say exactly what you said here. That you have an attitude about work and you're not sure why. Those closest to you will know how to advise you and help you.
Since you are homeschooled, are you part of a co-op or some sort of group outside the home? If you are please ask other kids your age what they do to get/stay motivated. There has to be someone who can help you get started on a better path!
I can just tell you from my own experience that not trying can affect your life 20 years down the road. It is not fun to always struggle for money and a good job. If you do the work now, you will have an easier road ahead.
The only problem is thinking that you are stuck in a problem attitude. Realize that every moment you are making a decision to think a certain way, to do or not do work, etc. You are the one who makes these decisions; you are the one who has put the power into where you are at right now.
I think the biggest thing many kids need to learn is that doing school work doesn't have anything to do with wanting to do it. You do it simply because it has to be done. And you can choose to do it, even if you don't want to do it. It really is that simple. Avoiding the work is simply an attempt to avoid the feelings that you are feeling about the work. Don't avoid the feelings. There's nothing wrong with them. Accept them and do the work anyhow. It's like that saying, "Feel the fear and do it anyway." Feel the boredom (or whatever it is you are feeling) and do the work anyway.
One last thing, ideally you'd have a specific goal in mind, an incentive of sorts to do the work. This might be as simple as getting your high school diploma, in which case you can use self-talk to tell yourself, "I'm going to do this work because I want my high school diploma before I turn 19." Or something like that. If you have bigger dreams than that, then use that. "I am going to do this work because I want to be a doctor and doing this will get me there."
Just remember: YOU are the one choosing it all. Decide what it is you really want to be choosing, the person you really want to be.
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What this attitude is likely really about feelings you are trying to mask: feelings of inadequacy, primarily. Since it only comes about when mistakes are pointed out, try to get a better sense of what it is that you are feeling when your mom points them out. Maybe it's something like, "I feel so stupid seeing those mistakes," or "I feel like I can never get it all right and I don't want to try," or maybe it's something deeper, like you feel you can't live up to your mom's expectations.
If this is the case, that you are feeling inadequate, what you need to tell yourself then is that it's okay to make mistakes. "Mistakes are opportunities for learning." They don't mean you are stupid or bad at school or anything like that. Nobody's perfect. That's why they create things like whiteout, erasers and backspace keys. :) Be willing to try to express how you feel to your mom, at the very least recognize what's going on inside you when this all comes up.
You may have years of this built up and may need to let yourself have a good cry, too. It's okay! Just really recognize what's going on.
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