They say that my children can not have social skills because they are home schooled, so i explain all the activities they are involved in like bowling, soccer, gymnastics and scouts, where they socialize with countless amounts of children of all ages.They also have friends in the neighborhood,so there are countless sleepovers and play dates. Even after being told all of this there are people who still keep playing the same old "socializing" record.Why is this?
If adults are around people who are abusive, they aren't FORCED to stay around them. They can just leave...or file a harrassment suit or protective order. But our children, who are still learning about the world, are forced to deal with these ugly issues without even the assistance of an adult who is knowledgeable about conflict. Kind of a sink-or-swim attitude that creates all the disasters we have in adolescence today.
The fact of the matter is, that there is conflict in every single family. Children start practicing there...so that they don't develop all these anger issues and feelings of low self-esteem. They see conflict resolution, they see compromise, they see how it works really, and they practice. Then there's conflict at scouts, there is conflict at the park, the library, anywhere there are people, there will be conflict. Maybe not ugly, corner you in the bathroom and beat the crap out of you conflict that my third grader had to go through (and many school kids), but realistic conflict that doesn't tell them this behavior is okay.
Poster, I don't know why people won't listen to facts. It seems like they have to spout rhetoric to defend their position, or else admit that the life they have lived thus far wasn't necessary. How can they live with the abuse (to whatever degree) that they have experienced if we say it wasn't necessary? How can they knowingly send their children into it, if it isn't 'important' in the development of a child. That's the whole reason, right there!