Oh yeah the two she thought she had failed when she came out of the exam she "only" got an A in.
And she "only" got 99% in RE instead of 100%.
Of course I'm happy for her. And jealous. And worried that I am going to fail all mine but be expected to get top A* results. And if I think I have failed they will say "oh don't worry your sister said that and she still got As!"
I'm not normally so competetive but with a thing like this that everyone is comparing and EVERYONE has to know these things, people ring up and ask for results like it's their business!
If I'm stuck in an exam or struggling with coursework, all I will be able to think of is her results.
What can I do
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Oh Gawd, forget about your feck!ng sisters results! First up you are your own person and aren't in competition with anyone but yourself. I think my parents made my brother feel like he had to compete with me but we are different and good at different things, and I think he resented me for a long time which was unnecessary! Secondly,if you have worked hard you will get the results you deserve.good or bad! Finally, I am absoutely convinced that being your own person is above all else the best and most important person you CAN be, forget your sister, you'll be fine, I know it!
well the only thing you can do is to study study ask for help and finnally more study!!!!
good luck!!!
Everyones different.
Just cos your sister got good grades doesn't mean you have to follow in her footsteps exactly.
Just do aswell as you can.
Ask her for her studying and ask her what techniques she used to help her concentrate.
Study as hard as you can, but don't beat yourself up if you dont do as well as her. Everyone's got different talents, and there's more to life and future success than exams. They're important, but its most important that you try your best, whatever the result.
My big sister was exactly the same, straight As at GCSE and A Levels and a 2.1 in her degree - it's alot to live up to. You often find though that the people who are best academically lack in other qualities like common sense, having the gift of the gab etc, things which might actually get you more success in job interviews etc than perfect grades.
So dont despair, just work hard and do your best, and be proud of yourself whatever the results - you'll probably surprise yourself and do really well.
PS my parents, grandparents etc were exactly the same, ringing up the second my results were out and telling me they were sure I'd get all As, and piling the pressure on. But they will be just as proud of you whatever you get, as long as you've worked hard. Grades are very important on the day, but as long as you've done well enough to progress to what you want to do later on, they arent important forever.
Stop the jelously and work hard. It shouldn't be a competition between you and your sister.
Concentrate on yourself and your abilities. Work hard and study. That's the only way to get good grades.
Stop stressing about what others do and how others react.
I realise it's very easy for me to sit here and type this and I realise these are pat answers for what must be a huge burden for you, but there are no answers other than for you to do the work.
Good luck!
Firstly, you are not your sister! You are you and you will do your best. You have 2 years to go which is ages at your age if that makes sense. And, by that time, your sister's results will be past and gone. You've got your chance to do what you can do. GCSE's are not the be all & end all; there's what comes after GCSE's. If you find things tricky, ask the parents or guardians, if they can afford it, to have a tutor for 1-2-1 support once or twice a week. Once is usually enough though. A decent tutor will give you confidence (honestly() in yourself and also give you individual attention all to yourself without loads of other kids getting in the way. Pat
WOAH calm down!! Youre sister isnt you its not about beating her its about doing the best you can! And as a general rule if you got 6's at sats you get a&b's 7's a&a* dont get so worked up hun! Year ten doesnt matter really just year 11 from January onwards! R e l a x!
just tell her , that her results are worthless...they are. My cat could get 10 A* at g.c.s.e
Your family has got itself stuck in a cycle of competitiveness from which it seems no-one can break out. Your sister has her own insecurities - she clearly has a need to be better than you - so much so that she reminds you that you can't beat her score a full 2 years after she achieved it! As a result, you have become so anxious that you are unable to fully join in congratulating her.
You need to do something about this because when you do your GCSEs in 2 years time, I presume your results will come out a week after she gets her A Level results (presumably with such good GCSE grades she's doing A Levels next?) and if you're in a state of anxiety now, goodness knows what state you'll have got yourself in by then (and I'm serious about this.)
There are some things you could do:
Congratulate your sister today, and don't get into any conversations/arguments she might start about how you'll never beat her grades!
As she did so well, and seems to have a need to be "better than you" you could ask her if she will help you over the next couple of years if you get stuck. Obviously I don't know your sister and whether she would use this as an excuse to belittle you, but it might have the opposite effect and soothe her insecurities (she might think you're always trying to out-do her!). It might transform the dynamic you've got going of competitiveness and out-doing each other to one of collaborativeness and helpfulness
You should speak with your parents. Are they really comparing the two of you or is that just how you perceive it? They need to know how anxious you are feeling before this gets really serious (and it could if you do nothing). If you can't talk to them, is there a trusted adult you could speak to - or a school counsellor? You could show then what you wrote on here - I think they might be quite concerned to find out how bad you are feeling.
Please talk to someone who knows you and your family and get some help with how you feel.
Nobody will think you aren't good enough. I know its hard when everyone is praising her and telling her what a wonderful person she is, how clever...blah...blah...but at the end of the day, she sounds quite a mean person if she is rubbing your face in it and thinks she is better than you. All you can do is your best, ask everyone for help if you are stuck, and at the end of the day, be proud of everything you have achieved. Exam results do not define you as a person. You are a good person. I know its hard just now, particularly at this time of year when the results come out, but if you know you did your best, then thats all that counts.
Everyone has different abilities, you will get the grades if you work hard, dont be so jealous because your not in competition with each other, me and my sister were not.
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